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[教育杂谈] 日常沟通中有哪些细节会让我们的英语听起来更“礼貌”?

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发表于 2018-2-10 17:44:04 | 显示全部楼层 |阅读模式
外国人喜欢用 tentative 的语气。所谓 tentative 语气,字面上的意思就是「 试探性 」的语气,也就是不要把话说死,给自己留一点余地。注意 tentative 不等于 uncertain 的语气,注意和 maybe 这种语气区分开来。比如多用 seem, appear, sound, look 这样的词。
∎  This is wrong. 改成 This seems to be wrong.
∎  We don't have other option. 改成 It seems we don't have other option.
反正在下结论的时候(哪怕明明是很确定的事情),记得加一个 seems , appears,语气没那么生硬。另外,一个东西,明明很好,硬要说 looks good , sounds good,而不是 It's good.以下还要注意的几点:不要总是说 maybe 这种垃圾话,如果确定性比较大的情况下,用 probably(实在不行改成 seem 也好)。
∎  Maybe this is right.This is probably right.
∎  Could we have a better way to do it?
∎  Maybe.(有些敷衍)
∎  Probably.
中国人滥用 maybe,不管什么情况都用 maybe,给人一种毫无把握的感觉。在表示有很可能的时候,老外都用 probably。maybe 是比较不确定。《纸牌屋》里 Peter Russo 和他家乡的人说关闭了船厂,但是他有一项新的法案 maybe 可以让他们重新获得工作,结果这个 maybe 惹怒了他家乡人。如果想表示“我很可能是错的”用 I'm probably wrong.
给别人提供建议时,不要用 should,也不要 you'd better,而是用 It would be better.
∎  This design should be changed.It would be better if we can change the design.
表示一件事希望你做,但是不强求时,用 It would be nice / great 而不是 I need you to xxx, I hope you xxxx, could you?
∎  I hope you can come today.
∎  You need to come today.
∎  Could you come today ?
∎  It would be nice / great if you can come today. (隐含的意思是 still OK if you can't make it.)
∎  Can you bring some wine to the party ?
∎  It would be nice / great if you can bring some wine to the party.
问别人你要东西 / 信息时,用 May I have...? 而不要 Could you give me?
∎  What's your name ? May I have your name ?
∎  Could you send me the drawing today ?
∎  May I have the drawing today ?
问别人有没有时间
∎  Could I have a minute / moment of your time ?(非常非常礼貌,销售员问法)
∎  Do you have a minute / moment ?(一般礼貌,同事朋友之间问法)
你比如你想独处一下,比如想打个私人电话,要别人回避一下。
∎  Could you come out ? Could I have a moment ( for myself ) ?
问别人是否可以做一件事时,用 Is it possible that ... 比Could you ... 更礼貌
∎  Could you change the design ? Is it possible for you to change the design ?
∎  Could you call me tomorrow ? Is it possible for you to call tomorrow ?
请别人帮忙做一件事时,在前面加 ( by ) any chance,意思是如果有时间 / 有机会,很委婉。
∎  By any chance, could you help check the data? (有时间可不可以帮忙看看数据?)
指责别人时候,用现在进行时比一般现在时要更委婉。
你很没耐心 / 强词夺理 / 无理取闹
∎  You are impatient / argumentative / unreasonable.
∎  You are being impatient / argumentative / unreasonable.
说前者会得罪很多人,因为你用一个 are 就把别人完全说死了,正常的说法是用 being,这样表示某时某刻这个人处于的状态,不表示你把他彻底说死。
表达要求时多用进行时。
∎  We need to do this as soon as possible.
∎  We need to be doing this as soon as possible.
would like 代替 want 吧。中国人用 want 比较多,但是 want 稍微带要求的意思,用 would like 就委婉一点。
我想要和你开个会。
∎  I want to have a meeting with you.
∎  I'd like to have a meeting with you.
用过去式表示一种委婉语气。口语中经常用过去式表示一种委婉语气,比如 I wanted, I thought, I was thinking, I was wondering, I was hoping 其实说话留下余地,因为这是表示过去的状态,没有说明现在的状况,从而形成一种委婉。
很多人误以为 thought 就是"以为”用来表示过去的错误想法,其实不是,只是表示过去的状况,不一定是和现在相反。thought 一样可以理解成 “认为”.
慎用 please。
please 有时候稍微带一点要求命令的语气,特别是在给客户或者老板写邮件请求某件事,把 please 替换成疑问句。
∎  Please reply to me by today.Could you reply to me by today?
而以下情况下用 please 就没问题,因为有 let me
∎  Please let me know your feedback.
let , allow 更礼貌
∎  Please tell me your feedback.Please let me know your feedback.
∎  I want to make a proposal.Please allow me to make a proposal.


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